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January 31, 2009

The Love Dare: Day Five

Love is Not Rude
January 31, 2009

Yet again, this one was fairly simple for me. I was born and raised in Alabama with a grandmother who was the epitome of Southern Class and Charm...many of her mannerisms rubbed off on me.
"Rudeness is unnecessarily saying or doing things that are unpleasant for another person to be around. To be rude is to act unbecoming, embarrassing, or irritating. This could be a foul mouth, poor table manners, or a habit of making sarcastic comments."
This says that genuine love minds its manners. This is something that I think couples accidentally slip into in marriage. You get married, you see each other during the best and worst days. Early in the morning before coffee, a shower, and makeup. At night before bed when the makeup is off. Little things like closing the bathroom door, burping outloud, etc. can go out the window (I'm adapting a lot of these from "The First 90 Days of Marriage" by Eric and Leslie Ludy...There is a whole section on manners...) People get the wrong idea that since you are married you don't have to be on your best behavior. But having good etiquette raises the level of comfort and respect in your home and around your spouse. If you want your spouse to STOP doing the things that irritate you, then you have to stop doing the things that irritate them.
They listed 3 Guiding Principles to practice etiquette in marriage:
1. Guard the Golden Rule
2. No double standards (Don't make it ok for you to do something, and not ok for them to do it.)
3. Honor Requests (If your spouse asks you for something, do it...with a smile.)

Today's Dare:
Ask your spouse to tell you 3 things that cause him to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from THEIR perspective only.

I asked Josh for 3 things and he says he has to ponder on them. He says that I do spur of the moment things to irritate him, but he can't think of anything off the top of his head that I consistently do. II'm sure he'll come up with something. And I'll post them as soon as he does.

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The Love Dare: Day Four

Love is Not Selfish
January 30, 2009

This was a pretty good one. Selfishness is described as the exact opposite of True Love. When we truly love someone, we in a way, "die" to ourselves. We stop putting our needs and our wants first and focus on the happiness and well-being of our spouse. And like it or not, we are all selfish. Two examples of selfishness the book listed were:
1. A Husband who puts his interests, desires and priorities ahead of his wifes.
2. A Wife who constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband.
That one kind of hit home with me. I don't complain 24/7, but on bad days (those days when Noah wants to whine and fuss, doesn't sleep good, and I can't accomplish anything...) I feel a little irritated and I can be selfish. Josh is such a wonderful husband. He works a full time job, and is planning on getting another per-diem job for the extra income. I volunteered to go get a job, but he doesn't want me to. He knows that it is important for me to be able to raise Noah these first several years and be there for him to watch him grow up. I know it's stressful on him to be the sole provider for our family, but he does it without complaining. Who am I to complain if he wants to come home and relax and watch TV? I'm home all day long. I can take time to make sure the house is clean and there is something for supper. It's only fair. But not only that, it's love...it's being self-less.
"When you relinquish your rights for the sake of your spouse, you get the chance to lose yourself to the greater purpose of marriage. Love looks for ways to say yes."

Today's Dare:
Whatever you put your time, energy and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today."

I had to run to Wal-mart to pick up a few things...Josh is hard to buy for because he's one of those people that either doesn't want anything in particular or just doesn't tell you what he wants because he doesn't want you to spend the money on him. It was simple, but Josh LOVES miniature Snicker bars. I bought a big bag of them for him and picked up a really sweet card about the day I fell in love with him. Naturally, I wrote my own note on the inside of the card. It was simple, but he lit up like a kid in a candy store when I gave him his candy. :)

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January 29, 2009

The Love Dare: Day Three

Love is Thoughtful
January 29, 2009

I actually had to skip the original Day Three because the dare involved buying something for your spouse, and since Josh has the car today and I have no way to anywhere to buy anything...I figured I would save that one for this weekend when I have some time to get out of the house by myself.

Today's lesson was on being thoughtful. This is something that goes along with yesterdays dare on kindness. To me being thoughtful means always trying to make sure that your spouses needs are met. In the book, it talked about how different things are when you are dating and when you get married. In the beginning when you are dating, you are constantly thinking about your significant other. What they look like, what it feels like to kiss them, things you have done together...thinking about things you can say or talk about next time they are around, things you want to learn about them that you don't know yet. But when you get married, all of that seems to fade. You have each other, see each other all the time, so what is there to think about? We get caught up in the day to day things: work, kids, ourselves.

The "Love Dare" says that "loving thoughts precede loving action." We have to constantly be thinking of ways to be thoughtful in order to put our love into action. When we stop being thoughtful we tend to start unintentionally ignoring the needs of our spouse. If we don't take the time to learn to continue to be thoughtful after we have said our wedding vows, then we end up regretting the missed opportunities to show our spouse how much we really love them.

The Love Dare did note that women were more multi-conscious than men. That's obvious to anyone who has children if nothing else. Women can talk on the phone, cook supper, be holding a child, and watch TV at the same time...all while still be concerned about her husband. I know from my own experiences in learning to be a mother that learning to multi-task is pretty much a requirement. I learned very fast to do things one handed. I have pretty much gotten it down to an art. Where men, for example, have a hard time listening to you talk when they are watching TV. It's just not in their genes. That's one of the ways that God intended for a woman to complete a man. But, along with being able to multi-task, us women are prone to "speak between the lines." Never truly saying what we mean...wanting our husbands to just put the pieces together and understand us. I am guilty of that. I don't feel like I should just come out to Josh and say "I want you to bring me flowers...that would make me feel special." Instead, if we go somewhere I make a point of saying (more than once usually) "Those flowers are really pretty...I'd like to have some to go on the kitchen table." I usually get the typical "Uh-huh..." response while he continues to shop. :)

Men on much more literal. They come out and say directly what they feel. Which is sometimes a very good quality. And I know they get frustrated with us for not being the same way. Just like we get aggravated when they don't pick up our hints. But being thoughtful means that we have to take those characteristics into consideration in our day to day routine with our spouses. Us women have to learn to say what we are thinking in a way that men can understand...whereas men need to try a little harder to pick up what we are putting down. Women, we can't punish our husbands for not understanding what we want, if we don't tell them. But if we always have to piece things together for our husbands, then it takes away their opportunity to surprise us and show his love.

"Love requires thoughtfulness-on both sides-the kind that builds bridges through the constructive combination of patience, kindess, and selflessness. Love teaches you how to meet in the middle, to respect and appreciate how your spouse uniquely thinks."

Today's Dare:
Contact your spouse sometime during the business of the day. Have no agenda other than asking how they are doing and if there is anything you can do for them.

What did you learn about yourself or your spouse today? How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?
This one was pretty easy. Ever since seeing "Fireproof" in theatres, this is something that I try to do everyday. It's not convenient for me to actually call Josh on the phone, because most of the time he is busy and can't talk. But I do send him text messages during the day just to let him know I am thinking about him and that I love him. It makes me feel good to know that I he enjoys getting them. He has told me before how much he enjoys receiving them, just because of how frustrating his days can be. It's nice to know that a simple gesture like that can actually mean something.

By the way, I took yesterdays dare up a level. After putting notes in Josh's pockets as to why I loved him, I decided to make it a little game. I made a list of all the reasons I love him and have started putting them in random places. He found the first one this morning getting dressed and he grinned like a little kid. Said he had to find somewhere to put them because he wanted to keep all of them. It was really simple and I can tell it actually means something to him.

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January 28, 2009

The Love Dare: Day Two

Love is Kind
January 28, 2009
Kindness is love in action. This day broke kindness down into 4 subcategories, each of which builds off of the other. The 4 categories of kindness are:
1. Gentleness: Gentlessness means never being unnecessarily harsh to your spouse. It's being sensitive and being tender. When things go wrong or you have something that you want to discuss, it's speaking the truth in love...kindly without being critical and demeaning.
2. Helpfulness: Being helpful means meeting the needs of the moment. A direct quote from the book says that "Kindness graces a wife with the ability to serve her husband without worrying about her own needs." This one I feel I am particularly good at. I always try to make sure that I put Josh's needs in front of my own.
3. Willingness: This means cooperating, staying flexible. Being open to compromise and trying to be as agreeable as possible. Marriage is a give and take relationship, you have to try to see the ways that you can come to terms in a respectable manner when you reach the point of disagreement.
4. Initiative: This means to think ahead to what needs to be done, and then doing it. Initiative chooses to take the first step. It greets first, smiles first, serves first, and forgives first. Initiative doesn't require that the other person get their act together before showing love.
Today's Dare:
Along with saying nothing negative to your spouse today, do atleast 1 unexpected gesture to show your spouse kindness.
What discoveries did you make about love today? What specifically did you do? How did you show kindness?
Love is doing things even when you get nothing in return. It's going out on a limb to make sure that the other person is happy, even if you never get anything back in return....no matter how you get treated. I hate to iron clothes. But for my dare today, I chose to iron all of Josh's work uniforms that are thrown in the laundry bsket in our bedroom. I know he will need them, so instead of waiting on him to iron them the night before he needs them, I decided to do them all today and hang them up in the closet. I also straightened his side of the closet up a little bit because it was messy. Inside each of his pants pockets, I stuck a little note..each with a reason on it that I love him.

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The Love Dare: Intro/Day One

A few weeks ago, Josh bought "The Love Dare" and decided he wanted to start doing it...not because we have a shaky marriage or anything, but simply because we are human, and like everyone else, the stress of the real world eventually over takes all of the sweetness and romance that comes with being newlyweds. Not that Josh and I had much of a newlywed period since we got married in April, and then found out in May that we were having a baby. But anyways, that's beside the point. Josh has been doing it for about 2 weeks now, and yesterday I picked it up and decided that I was going to do it too. No harm in taking the extra initiative right? So, for the next few weeks, I'll be blogging about what I read in the book, what the actual dare is, and after each dare there are questions about what you did and what you learned. There are a few dares that I think are a little too personal to blog about for everyone to read, so if you see the blog go from day 10 to day 13 or something, just know that there was something in between that I felt the whole world didn't need to read about.
Day One: Love is Patient January 27, 2009
This first day talks mostly about how love is built on 2 main pillars: Patience and Kindness. Without both of them, marriage is destined for hardship and struggle. Patience brings an internal calm to an external storm. When things get frustrating, rather than jumping up and getting angry, patience teaches to be calm and refrain from throwing more on the fire by being negative. Patience is where love meets wisdom. Wisdom to know when to keep your mouth shut and not to increase an argument through fighting and being unnecessarily rude. Patience helps you to give your spouse permission to be a human. No one is perfect. Everybody makes mistakes...both big and small. And no matter what we try to do to prevent that in our spouse, it's bound to happen at some point or another. Josh can vouch for me, but one of the biggest patience issues I have is with Sports...lol. Josh is one of those people that is truly passionate about sports...football , baseball, basketball during the playoffs. Sports interviews, anything. So that's something that I am having to work on myself. Letting him enjoy his sports without nagging him to do something else. It's funny, one of the examples in today's message was how a patient wife lets her husband watch sports without contrantly nagging him to spend his time doing something else.
Today's Dare: Resolve to demonstrate patience and say nothing negative at all to your spouse. If the temptation to say something negative arises, choose to say nothing at all. I did pretty good with this dare. I try to stay positive about everything anyways. Since Josh and I rarely argue as it is, it was pretty simple to not be negative and show patience.

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January 27, 2009

Things you may not have known about me

This post is all over Facebook right now, and since I don't bother posting notes on my Facebook (because I have a blog that I enjoy keeping up to date more...) I decided to post it here. I'm not going to tag anyone. Mainly because I don't really know anyone that reads this, but if you feel the urge to make your own list, then by all means go ahead. The one on Facebook only asks for 25 things, but just in case I decide to go over, you have atleast been forewarned :)
1. I believe that Josh is the only person in the world that I could ever spend my life with.
2. I am 100% positive that my son is the cutest little boy to ever grace the planet (though I'm also 100% sure that every mother out there believes the same thing.)
3. If I had the time, I would pursue about 5 different career paths in life: Journalist, Psychologist, High School English Teacher, Interior Decorator & Architect.
4. I am fasinated with old buildings.
5. I tend to over-analyze almost everything.
6. I have kept a journal since I was in 4h grade.
7. I have full intentions of someday publishing my journals from Junior High till now in a book.
8. I burn the same songs on different CD's over and over again (something that drives Josh crazy!)
9. I HATE to watch sports on TV.
10. I am a firm believer in soulmates, destiny, and fate.
11. I eat more chicken than I do anything else.
12. I am addicted to Dr. Pepper, but have cut it almost completely out of my diet (trying to eat healthy...blah.)
13. I have a love/hate relationship with my Blackberry.
14. I am very shy when I first meet someone.
15. Planning my wedding was probably THE most stressful thing I have ever done in my life.
16. Having my IV inserted when I had Noah hurt 100 times worse than getting an epidural.
17. I have not ran across a man in this world yet that I would ever even consider leaving Josh for (I know a lot of people that say that they would leave their husband/wife for a celebrity...seriously can't think of one that I would leave Josh for.)
18. The only crossword puzzles I am good at, are the ones you find in People and US Weekly.
19. I would rather text than talk on the phone...talking seems to take up so much more time.
20. I love to scrapbook, but never seem to be able to find time to do it.
21. I love blogging...if that's not already obvious.
22. Sleeping is one of my top 3 favorite things to do in life.
23. I love to cuddle.
24. I am addicted to Starbucks Mocha Frapaccino's.
25. I am petrified of roaches.
26. I love to take a bath or a shower...if I have time, I usually take 2 baths a day.
27. I love NASCAR...it's one of the only sports (aside from some college football) that I will watch on TV.
28. I am OCD about things being clean and in place.
29. Despite the fact that I have a planner on my blackberry, I still keep things in a calender in my purse.
30. I love to make lists...Grocery Lists, To-Do Lists, Things I want to buy lists...it's sad.
31. Clowns scare me.
32. One of the things I miss the most about not being married, is competing in Beauty Pageants.
33. One day, when we have plenty of money, I plan on opening my own Pageant Coaching School.
34. Josh and I have decided that we are not going to have anymore kids of our own (unless God wants us to)...the next baby we have we are going to adopt.
35. I really think that Global Warming is just a hype...no where near as bad as people make it out to be.
36. I think buying gas is the equivalent of throwing money out a window because of it's ridiculous price.
37. I absolutely LOVE to shop.
38. If I could only pick one place in the world to visit, it would be New York City.
39. About 70% of my entire wardrobe (shoes included) is black. I love to wear black clothes...
40. I absolutely LOVE Christmas time.
41. I love to celebrate other people's birthdays...giving gifts is one of my favorite things.
42. People have called me a pushover before because of my genuine concern for other people's well being...it drives Josh crazy because I always put everyone else before myself.
43. When I was growing up, my family and I lost everything we had to housefires...4 times.
44. I am terrified of fire (wonder why?)
45. I was afraid of the dark until I was about 13...lol.
46. I love scary movies (Halloween is my all-time favorite)
47. I am a hopeless romantic.
48. Nicholas Sparks is my favorite author and I always buy his books the day the come out, read them in 2 or 3 days, and then have to wait months for the next one.
49. One day I plan to write a novel about my life and eventually turn it into a movie.
50. Reese Witherspoon is my favorite actress.
51. Tom Hanks is my favorite actor.
52. Forrest Gump is my all time favorite movie.
53. I have a small collection of "Gone With the Wind" Memorabilia.
54. I collect Christmas Ornaments for myself, Josh and now Noah.
55. We were originally going to name Noah "Sawyer".
56. I have a very strong faith in Jesus Christ and know that I can't do anything without him.
57. My two least favorite "female" things to do: Shaving and Drying my hair (both of which I do daily despite how much I hate it.)
58. I love to put on my makeup.
59. I have a sense of humor that only Josh can seem to match.
60. I am a deep thinker and enjoy philosophical thoughts.
61. I love random facts.
62. I keep a quote journal...full of quotes by celebrities, friends, etc.
63. I have a bad habit of quoting movies.
64. I can pretty much quote word-for-word every episode of "Friends"
65. I watch "Saved By The Bell" re-runs every morning.
66. Despite occasional frustration, I love playing "Suzy Homemaker"
67. I love movies...
68. I can find the most random and indepth meanings in music...meanings most people don't catch but when they hear me explain it, understand.
69. I am a great listener and love to give advice.
70. After spending 2 years in college and not really learning anything, I have learned the importance of education.
71. I love to lay in the tanning bed!
72. The beach at Sunset is my all-time favorite place to be.
73. I think that people are made to "fit" together....in every way possible. I think each person has someone out there that perfectly completes them.
74. I agree that the first year of marriage is the hardest.
75. I have a bad habit of starting journals, seeing a cute notebook/journal somewhere, buying it, and starting another one. None of my journals ever get filled up.
76. I get really irritated by stupidity and ignorance.
77. I hate to be around people that think they are better than everyone else.
78. I have road rage.
79. It's a habit I'm working on, but I tend to be critical of people I don't know.
80. I have never gotten a ticket or a warning while driving.
81. Josh has gotten more tickets since we have been dating than he ever got the 26 years before we met.
82. Josh is my best friend.
83. I love puppies!
84. I hate cats.
85. I am so happy that I married because dating was my least favorite thing in the world to do.
86. I am an alumni of Alpha Gamma Delta Sorority.
87. I think movies and TV Shows give sorority girls a bad reputation.
88. I hate needles.
89. I highlight, underline, and make notes in books that I read of things I want to remember.
90. I love to take pictures.
91. I have about 8 CD's of pictures from my Freshman year of college until now that I have never gotten developed.
92. My favorite thing to wear is jeans and flip-flops.
93. But I love getting dressed up to go out.
94. I hate air-fresheners...they are way to strong and always make me cough.
95. I am a pack-rat...I keep random junk that I don't need until Josh makes me throw it out.
96. I can not go to sleep if there is stuff (besides blankets) on the bed. The TV remote, clothes...nothing. It all has to be off.
97. I love to exercise (atleast, now I do...I used to hate it.)
98. I hated almost everything about high school and would never in a million years do it over.
99. If I could die and come back as someone else, I think I would want to just come back as me...there are alot of things that I would like to do that I never got to do.
100. I believe myself to be a very real, but somewhat complex person to get to know.
There, now everyone who reads this can say they know a little something more about me...that was actually pretty easy. I could have probably written a few more, but after 100 facts, I'm sure that if anyone has read this, they are bored by now.

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January 24, 2009

Pulling an All-Nighter

No, not me...or Josh. Noah. Last night marked the first full night that Noah has slept. He woke up bright-eyed, hungry and wide awake at 6:00 am this morning. Not that either of us minded. It sure beat getting up at 1:00 and then getting up 5:00...All night. Out to the world. It was fabulous. Anyways, just wanted share my good news with the blog world. Hopefully, if we are lucky, this will become an on-going trend for a while.

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January 22, 2009

I had been meaning to post a few new pictures of the baby, but hadn't gotten around to it. These are actually 2 of the only new ones I have taken since Christmas...I am slacking on the photography lately. I took almost 300 pictures during the 10 days at Christmas...now I have to take the time to go them all developed! It will be a little while before I get around to that though. My mom bought me a bunch of scrapbook stuff for Christmas and Josh bought me a desk to set it all up a few weeks ago, but aside from setting everything up and doing about 6 pages in our Wedding Scrapbook I haven't had time. I don't know what I am going to do when Noah starts crawling...I don't feel like I can keep up with him now as it is! The good news is, he is in another fabulous mood today and is cooperating with me sitting at the computer typing wonderfully! He's occupied by something on our bookshelf...just not sure what. He slept 4 1/2 hours last night went to bed at 9:30, got up at 2:00 and then would have kept sleeping, but Josh got up for work at 5:30, so he woke up then. I can not explain to you how relieved I am that he is sleeping more! Which, all the moms out there can sympathize. I am looking forward to this weekend...why, I'm not sure. We don't really have anything planned. I'm sure we'll clean the house really good Saturday, but I think we plan on spending most of the weekend being lazy watching movies. There is no football on this weekend, so I know Josh won't be occupied by that. And if it warms up, we are planning on spending some time at the park. Noah isn't big enough to play, but we take him and walk the trail (About 2 miles around it) a couple of times a week. It's been too stinkin' cold to go outside this week though. I've turned the heater on for the first time this year...and Josh wasn't happy with the cold when he had to get underway on the boat Tuesday. Poor Guy...I'd hate to have a job that consisted of getting to go out on the water all over Tampa Bay, Clearwater and Fort Myers...lol. He wants a new camera that he can take out with him to take pictures of all of the places he goes...I think that's what he's getting for Valentines Day. Alright, well I guess that's all for now. Just wanted to put those pitures up of the baby. I need to get both of those blown up a framed. They are 2 of the best candid shots of him we have. Hope everyone has a good day! If I feel froggy, I may try to post on something of importance later on today when Josh gets home...we'll just have to see.

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January 21, 2009

Random...

I stole this idea from Kelli's "Feelings of a Pregnant Woman" blog...LOL I'm not pregnant, but I thought the idea was a good one. I don't think people stop often enough to put their thoughts together and look at what they are truly happy about, what they are sad about (and therefore need to work on) and what they feel they need to do. So, since Noah is in a fabulous mood today and I have already done most of my "mommy" duties for the day, I thought I'd give this a whirl. *I'm Happy because: Noah is growing perfectly and OUTgrowing colic, acid reflux, and sleepless nights; I am married to the one man that I know will always love me, support me, and take care of me; I have a roof over my head (though not extravagant) that I am proud to call my home, I have a wonderful family and wonderful in-laws that I could not love more, I am saved by the grace of God and know I have an eternal home in heaven, I get to stay at home during the day and raise our son, I'm down to only 3 pounds of baby weight to lose, I have cut out almost ALL caffeine in my diet (and am actually drinking mainly water, juice and Gatorade....a big step for a Southern girl who loves sweet tea!), It's a new year which means a new beginning, I have everything I ever wanted in life-a husband, a son, a house of our own away from Alabama. *I'm Sad because: I feel like Josh and I never get to spend any time together alone because we don't know very many people and have no babysitter, I haven't talked to my old college friends in several months (despite attempts to contact them), Josh will eventually have to go to California for 3 months (this year or early next), Noah is growing so fast (I want him to stay my little man forever haha!), I miss my family and Josh's family because they live so far away and hardly ever get to visit, I don't feel like I have really found anywhere I belong here in Florida *I'm Excited because: I get to start taking classes again in August, Josh is going to get to go to the A-School he wants to go to, this will be mine and Josh's first Valentine's Day as Husband and Wife, Noah rolled over for the first time last night, Noah is only waking up once a night and sleeping for 4-6 hour stretches at a time, Josh got a raise, I've set my sights on making 2009 a wonderful year and so far, it's going great; God has finally started to reveal to me what he wants me to do with my life *Today, I still need to: Make up some bottles for Noah, figure out what we are going to eat for supper (I'm thinking pasta...hmmm....) Revamp my "101 things in 1001 Days" list that I have been attempting to work on, Iron Josh's work uniforms that are thrown in the closet *Someday I hope to: Live up North where it snows over Christmas, Spend Christmas in New York City, Travel...all over-overseas, the US...you name it, I love travel; Get my Bachelor's Degree and eventually my Master's degree...most likely in Psychology with a minor in Creative Writing, write a book, be able to give Noah most everything he wants (not in the aspect that he will be spoiled...but I want him to have more than I had growing up), Make a difference in the world

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January 13, 2009

Friendships and Babies...

I've been pondering on 2 different subjects for the past few days, and thought there is no better way to "ponder" than to play on blogger. I keep telling myself that I should "ponder" on these in-depth thoughts in my journal that way I would have all of it in one place, but it's too aggravating to write it all in a journal and then turn around and type it all online. With an almost 3 month old, I hardly have time during the day to do the dishes and shower, much less write and blog. I'm doing good to have some time right now (It's nap time...) Ok...thought one. I was looking at old picture on Facebook earlier today and remembered my mom always telling me that in your lifetime you will only have 1 or 2 friends who you actually keep in touch with and you can actually consider your true friends. I don't necessarily agree with that. Then I started thinking back on friendships over the years. I had a group of friends in grade school (there were 6 of us, myself included) and we did everything together. We were really, really close. Then, we all kind of drifted in different directions, starting hanging out with different crowds, and the 6 of us dwindled into just myself and my friend Ashley. We were best friends until high school, and then we drifted into different crowds. In high school, there was another group of 6 until our Senior Year...again we all went seperate ways. Then graduation came, we all went to different colleges and we all made new friends. I thought that when I got to college that those friends would be it. You know, the ones that are there when you get married, the ones that are there when you have a baby, the ones you are a bridesmaid for. Those lifelong friends that never go away. But, then life happens. You do get married, you do have a baby, you move away and things change. But that doesn't mean those friendships weren't real. I think that friends come and go in our lives. Kind of like they are there for the right time and the right reason. Not that any one friendship is more meaningful than another, just that each one has a certain time frame. Are those friends I had back in grade school any less significant than the ones that I had in college? No. In my mind, they are all the same. Each and every friendship, in some way impacted my life. Made me who I am...I still have the memories shared with different friends (both good and bad) and I feel like I still carry a little bit of each person with me in my life. Friendship is so important to me...and something that I have felt like I have been missing in my life lately. Living in Tampa, away from everyone and everything I have ever known, has definately taken some getting used to. And adjusting to very few friends has been one of them. It's hard to make new friends in such a big city when you aren't working and have a baby that isn't old enough to have playmates yet. I still have my best friend back in Alabama...but it's hard to get together, even over the phone. She has a 7 month old, works 2nd shift and goes to school during the day time. Bless her heart, I don't know how she finds time to do much of anything else. I'm happy I have Josh too though. He is truly my best friend. He's the only person that knows absolutely everything about me, and loves me anyway...even if I don't always deserve it. Anyway...I think I rambled that thought on a little more than I intended. My point-I think we have a lot of true friend during our life time...just some stick around longer than others. Just because those friends aren't there anymore, doesn't mean they weren't true friends to begin with. Ok, thought number two...I think I have finally figured out why it is so easy for parents to fall in love with their children. It's said to be a love at first sight kind of thing, and it is. But I have always wondered (and still did up until the past few days) why it is so easy to just love a child. Aside from the fact that a mother carries her child for 9 months (sometimes longer lol) and feels them growing, I think that we love our children so much when they are born because of their innocense. Think about it. A baby is the only person in the world that you have in your life that has never done anything to hurt you. They have never made you mad, never hurt your feelings, never broke your heart. They are pure. They are untainted. I was laying beside Noah in the bed the other day. He was laying there looking at me, laughing and smiling and making all of those cute noises that I like so much, and I realized for the first time just how much I love my son. I mean, I knew I loved him. No doubt about that. But when he was laying there staring at me, just being sweet and innocent, knowing nothing about the pain this world can cause and the pain in life he will eventually experience, it just hit me. This child was given to me by God to love and protect and take care of. And it's a huge rush of emotion when that thought finally kicks in. I guess that's part of why I've been thinking about all of that. It seems like the fact that I am a mother and that I have a sweet baby boy of my own, finally sank in. It took almost 3 months...but it sank in. It's so amazing. Well, Noah is awake now, sitting in his bouncy seat staring at me. It's like he's trying to say, "Ok Mama...I'm awake. How about you fix me a bottle and pay me some attention?" Gotta love the demands of mommy-hood. Oh well, I have to go pick Josh up from work in a few minutes anyways and then run a few errands in the nasty, cold, rainy weather we are experiencing down here....More next time I have a free moment I guess!

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January 11, 2009

Just a few random thoughts/updates...

I had a little bit of time on my hands to post a new blog. Josh is glued to the TV right now watching the Steelers/Chargers Game, and Noah is sitting in the bed watching it with him. (Yes, I know he probably has no clue what's going on, but it's cute...he's sitting beside his daddy and every now and then he'll make one of those cute baby noises like he is yelling and cheering.) Anyways, Christmas was good. Josh and I are both glad to be back home though. It's nice to be back in our own comfy little apartment here in St. Pete without having to run and run and run to visit everyone. Not that I don't like spending time with our families when we go home, but I honestly don't think there is enough time in the days to get to see everyone like we want. We've been home twice since we moved in June, and it seems like what should be a "break" or "vacation" turns into a headache and complete exhaustion. All we do is go. Anyways...it's starting to warm up in Florida again. I'm hoping it's going to stay this comfortable mid-70's that it's been for the past 2 months. We haven't turned our air condition on in over 2 months, and we didn't even have to run the heater this year. (Not to mention, the dirt cheap Electric Bill is so nice!) It's mid-January already...in another few weeks (if the weather keeps on like it is now) it will be time to start hitting the beach. I'm so excited...I still have some work to do before I step foot on the beach in a Bikini, but I am down to only 5 pounds of baby weight to lose, so I think I'm doing pretty good. I can't BELIEVE how fast Noah is growing. I've always heard people say that they grow fast, but seriously. He went to the doctor on Tuesday for his 2 month checkup. Granted, he was a little past 2 months (10 weeks if you want to be exact). The little chunk weighed 13.9 lbs and was 22 1/2 inches long. He's getting to be such a big boy! I was worried that he was overweight for his age, but Dr. Bhumi told us that he was perfect...not that I didn't already know that, but then again I could be a bit biased. We have finally gotten him on a pretty regular sleep pattern. He's waking up about every 4 or 4 1/2 hours. Not quite to all night yet, but we are definately getting there, and I can definately tell the difference. I don't feel like a Zombie anymore. I actually get to sleep some at night. Plus, he's staying awake alot more during the day time. He's getting to the point where I can play with him some. He's going to be a talkative little dude...and definately going to be one I'm going to have to keep up with. He loves to move. Seriously...he has one of those little vibrating seats that he sits in during the day time when I'm busy doing stuff around the house, and he pitches a fit if it isn't bouncing up and down. He wants to constantly be in motion. I should definately get my exercise when he gets to crawling stage. He is doing really good with his sitting up. He still wobbles some, but he can pretty much sit on his own while propped up. He loves to laugh and smile. That's the most entertaining part. He loves making noises and faces. I can sit for hours and just look at him. He did have to get his shots the other day...that didn't go so well. He did pretty good when they actually GAVE the shots, but about an hour and half later when he woke up from his nap that he started pitching a fit. I got worried because he was screaming so much. He isn't a fussy baby at all...even with his acid reflux and the digestive trouble he had when he was born. He's never fussed as bad as he did the other night. And I tried everything. We gave him baby Tylenol, tried a warm bath, put warm washrags on his little legs, walked with him, rode him in the car...nothing was working. I thought we were going to take him to the ER, but Doctor Dad came to the rescue. Turns out 1/8 a cup of sugar mixed with 4 ounces of water stops immunization pain. I had never heard of it. But it was on WebMD and we tried it (after all, nothing else had worked). Sure enough, he drank it, smiled and then slept for almost 6 1/2 hours straight. When he got up, it was like nothing in the world was wrong. Anywho...now that I've done my mommy duty and rambled on and on about my son and all that, I guess I'll close this blog out. By the way, I decided to re-vamp my "101 Things in 1001 Days" list and start over. Having Noah put a little bit of a halt on that, so I'm going to regroup and start over. Hope everyone had a great New Year!

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