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February 2, 2009

The Love Dare: Day 7

Love Believes the Best
February 2, 2009

This dare gave an example of 2 rooms of our hearts: The Appreciation Room and the Depriciation Room. In the Appreciation room, we keep a record of all of the good qualities in our spouse, all of the sweet and thoughtful things they have done for us. However, as good as it sounds, this isn't really a room many of us visit very often. We prefer the Depriciation Room...the room where we harvest all of our negative feelings and bad thoughts about our spouse. It's where we are constantly reminding ourselves of their wrongs...the ways they hurt us, the mistakes they make. This isn't the kind of stuff we should surround ourselves with if we plan on having a healthy and positive marriage. We have to remind ourselves that EVERYONE makes mistakes...everyone fails...everyone has areas in life that they need to work on. Everyone...including ourselves. It's simple to forget that we too are not perfect when we are always trying to point out the negatives in other people. But true love, focuses on the positive things. Love believes the best about people...especially our spouse. We have to let love lead our thoughts. The only reason we should ever glance in the door of the Depreciation room, is to search for ways to pray for our spouse, to understand what they struggle with. We have to remember the good things...let love lead our thoughts and our focus.

Todays' Dare:
Get 2 sheets of paper. On the 1st one, make a list of all of the positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with the negative things on the 2nd sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place for another day. There is a plan for each. At some point during the day, pick a positive attribute and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
Which list was easier for you to make? What did this reveal about your thoughts? What did you thank your spouse for?

The positive list was actually easier for me to make. I came up with about 3 negatives. I try my hardest to focus on the good things. I have been around people alot in my life that dwell solely on negativity and I have seen what it can do to a marriage and to your own well being and self-esteem. I made my mind up a long time ago not to live like that. I thanked Josh simply for being a wonderful husband and a loving father. I know that sounds pretty easy, but when you think about it, that's not necessarily something you verbally come out and thank someone for very often. I did make my lists...but I won't bore you with all of the reasons I think my husband is wonderful :)

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